WHAT LOVE MEANS NOW

December 1, 2021Happiness

When you become a Senior, “LOVE” will pretty much mean what it always has meant…. with a few additions and accommodations. The challenge of SELF-LOVE, still has to come first. A new widow told me, during a therapy session, that she had forgotten who she was. “I can’t even remember what I liked to do […]

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ADVICE YOU SHOULDN’T FOLLOW

September 7, 2021Love

If you are a female, chances are you mother gave you some lessons about how to get and keep a man. Or maybe you got your “LOVE INFO” from friends… or from a book. “THE RULES,” was first published in 1995 during a time when women …. and men were beginning to feel free from […]

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GAG YOUR NAGGING

August 7, 2021Algazi Family Counselig

      When you have a gripe with your significant other, it’s kind of normal to “NAG” You never mean to NAG exactly… you just want to feel heard by him or her, who you say you love. You want, whatever your message, to inspire the desired change in your partner. Some mornings, like […]

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LOVE HIM … NOT HIS BEHAVOIR

June 28, 2021Algazi Family Counselig

More likely than ever, given COVID, too much togetherness / not enough socialization, and now permission to spread our collective wings, someone you love may be struggling to regulate his or her emotions. Interesting how so many of us are having so much trouble getting back to what we thought of as “normal.” It’s easy […]

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ONE GENTLE ROAD TO HAPPINESS

June 17, 2021DR. MARTIN SELIGMAN

POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY has been around for a long while, but it is hot right now and is based on the wonderful notion that you don’t have to be sick to get better.  People often go to psychologists in search of some magic “POTION” or idea.   I haven’t found one yet.  Turns out that  those […]

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THINK YOU NEED A DIVORCE TOO?

THINK YOU NEED A DIVORCE TOO?

May 9, 2021Algazi Family Counselig

  Bill and Melinda Gates are not the only ones who have decided to divorce during these trying times. As the threat of the virus lessens, the decision to move ahead with major life-changes, for better or worse, has risen to front and center. (Just for the record, I don’t view the Gates’s marriage as […]

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PANDEMIC ‘BREAD-CRUMBING” AND “LOVE-BOMBING”

April 17, 2021bread-crumbing

If you are single, chances are you made your last so-called “connection,” “on line”. Two out of every five single people aged 24 – 50 currently use, or have used an online dating service. Yes, you read that correctly – it’s 40%! Those older than 50 are not immune to itching for a love-connection either. […]

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MORE ABOUT “IMAGINARY CUPCACKES

MORE ABOUT “IMAGINARY CUPCACKES

April 2, 2021IMAGINARY CUPCAKES" AND KEEPING YOUR COOL

    Time to think about giving a gift of some of those  “IMAGINARY CUPCAKES” to ease what is probably a hurt behind the anger or frustration of a loved one or a colleague. Last time I encouraged you to focus on your own emotions, and skip the temptation of quenching your own anger with empty […]

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NO RESOLUTIONS THIS YEAR???

January 16, 2021"PLAN" : NOT A BAD WORD

    I have a friend who signed up for a zoom music appreciation class. What a great idea, I thought, especially through these difficult times.   Music, he explained, is something he knows little about. The first session included examples of Gregorian chants, with religious roots. My friend is a spiritual man. No surprise […]

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COULD YOU BE A “MEDICAL SLEUTH?”

COULD YOU BE A “MEDICAL SLEUTH?”

November 8, 2020DDIAGNOSE THIS "MEDICAL PROBLEM

You are in a classroom with other wan-a-be-docs. Your assignment is to diagnose a young patient who presents with the following symptoms:   Sexual preoccupatiom Alternating depression and euphoria Loss of appetite Insomnia Loss of interest in school/work/hobbies Irrational jealousy Anxiety Social withdrawal from friends and family Inability to concentrate Obsessive fantasizing Occasional giddiness. Excessive […]

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LOVE CHALLENGES… ON STEROIDS

September 6, 2020CORONAVIRUS

I am a LOVE doctor.  My blog has most always been about the pleasures and pain associated with all kinds of LOVE and FRIENDSHIP connection. This one is no exception. Lately, because of our troubling times, and as I suffer along with everyone else, I take notice about how under whatever level of quarantine, relationships […]

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HOW SHOULD PARENTS INTERVENE?

May 17, 2020CORONADIVORCE

Couples who are hunkered down together may be overwhelmed with too much togetherness. (I saw a photo on line this morning of a sign which hung from an apartment window. “HUSBAND FOR SALE.”) All kidding aside, there is a threat of CORONADIVORCE  looming, all over the world.  I understand. For sure, kids, who are “onlys,” […]

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THE “GI JOE FALLACY”

April 29, 2020Love Doctor to the "OC"

Do you remember those old “GI Joe” episodes on TV? Some kid would do something bad… like drink their parents’ booze or smoke a cigarette or talk to a creepy stranger? Then “GI Joe,” would randomly show up, preach  and teach that what the kid was doing was wrong and  how , moving forward,  knowing […]

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THE LOVE-DOCTOR’S PLEA FOR AN ACTION PLAN

March 12, 2020CORONAVIRUS

I never thought about myself as a hypochondriac; nor am I a chicken about most things. I am a psychologist, though, and as such, I’ve treated many people, more fearful than I, about what the future may bring, in different areas of their lives. Worrying, I’ve learned, doesn’t do much good … unless it results […]

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TO FLORIDA, WITH LOVE

February 27, 2020Love Doctor goes to Florida

    When New Yorkers, get burned out by tumult and/or weather, they are likely to move south to Florida. As a New Yorker who landed instead, in California, visiting old friends and family now sometimes means a trip to the “sunshine state” rather than back to the “city that doesn’t sleep.” In the name of […]

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